No topic has fascinated humanity quite like sex has. Unsurprisingly, over time we’ve developed an entire vocabulary to describe the wide variety of sexual positions, preferences and practices. Now you can become a SEXpert too with our SEXicon!
Ever engaged in a Finnish sleigh ride? Be careful, perhaps the term describes a husky holiday in Muonio after all? We’ve collected the most common and unusual terms on love, sex and tenderness in our sex lexicon so you know what’s what.
A
A-Spot = female pleasure spot at the back of the vagina.
AC/DC = another terms for bisexual
Age Play = role play during which a partner pretends to be a different age
Anal Sex, or: anal intercourse= insertion of the penis into the anus
Anilingus, or: Rimming, Rim-Job= sexual practice during which anus and perineum are being stimulated with the lips and tongue
Anorgasmia = Difficulty in climaxing even with stimulation
Aphrodisiac = medium to increase sexual pleasure
Asexual = a person who doesn’t have sexual attraction towards others
Autosexual = being sexually attracted to yourself
B
Bare Blank Blowjob = oral intercourse without the use of a condom
Barebacking = unprotected intercourse
Bastinado, or: Foot whipping = hitting a person’s bare foot soles as a method of punishment to derive sexual pleasure
BDSM = a power dynamic practice that incorporates bondage, domination, submission and/or masochism
bisexual or: bi = being sexually or emotionally attracted to your same gender and other genders
Blowjob = oral sex
Bondage = practice using restraints as part of BDSM play
Breath Play = consensual erotic act involving the restriction of oxygen to increase sexual sensation. Very risky!
Brothel, or: bordello = an establishment where sex workers provide sexual services
Bukkake = sex act during which multiple men ejaculate on another person
Butt Plug, or: anal plug, = small dildo which is inserted into the anus. Butt plugs can be used to stretch the anus in preparation for anal sex and are often used to provide sexual stimulation.
C
CATposition = sex position considered to be a more ‘intensive’ missionary position
Casual sex = occasional sex between two partners who are not in a romantic relationship
Caviar = alternative for feces
Cock Ring = ring placed around the penis, glans or balls to intensify or prolong an erection
Coitus a Tergo = summary term for multiple sex positions during which one partner looks at the other’s back
Coitus Interruptus = old-school and outdated method of contraception during which a penis owner pulls their penis out of the vagina before ejaculating
Coming-out = self-disclosure towards one’s sexual orientation (e.g. homosexuality)
Corporal Punishment = punishment of a partner through infliction of pain → Spanking
Cosplay = short for costume play where dressing up as pop culture characters can be a part of role play (not always sexual in nature)
Cream Pie = pornography scene depicting male ejaculation inside a vagina or anus without use of a condom
Clitoris = Part of the vulva, a small and very sensitive internal and external organ that is designed for pleasure
Cuckold = a person in a committed relationship who derives sexual pleasure from their partner engaging in intimate contact with others
Cunnilingus = stimulation of clitoris, labium and vulva using the tongue or lips
Cum Shot = ejaculation onto the body of a partner, often onto the face
Cybersex, or: CS = virtual sex via the Internet using a web cam or text messaging
D
Deep Throat, or: Gagging= a variation of oral sex during which the penis or dildo is inserted into the throat until a gag reflex sets in
Dental Dam = piece of rubber used during oral sex to avoid sexually transmitted diseases. The dental dam is placed across the vulva or anus.
Demisexual = a type of sexual orientation where the person needs an emotional connection in order for sexual attraction
Dildo = sex toy resembling the size and shape of the male penis
Dirty Talk = use of explicit and often dirty words during sex to increase sexual pleasure
Dogging = outdoor sex
Doggy-Style = Sex from behind on all fours
Double-Penetration, or: DP = simultaneous penetration of the anus and vagina
E
Edging = a technique where orgasm is almost achieved, then delayed in repetitive cycles to create a stronger climax
Energy Orgasm = orgasm without touch
Electro Sex, or: E6, E-Sex = sex with machines, e.g. breast pumps
Electro Plug, or E-plug = an electronic à Butt Plug
Erotic Lactation = act of breast feeding a grown partner for sexual stimulation
Exhibitionism = deriving sexual pleasure from being watched by strangers during the sexual act. Counterpart to àVoyeurism
F
Facial = consensually ejaculating on someone’s face
Face Sitting, or: Queening = sexual practice during which one partner sits on the face of another to receive oral stimulation
Feeding = deriving sexual pleasure from feeding a partner
Felching = sexual practice of orally sucking out ejaculated semen from a partner’s vagina or anus
Fellatio = oral sex (stimulation of the penis)
Female Domination, or: Femdom = when a female identified person dominates during sex
Fetish = deriving sexual pleasure through use of certain objects, materials or body parts, e.g. foot fetish
Finger = sexual stimulation of the vulva, vagina or anus using the fingers or hand
Fisting= insertion of the fist into the anus or vagina
Flagellation, or: Flag = act of whipping to derive sexual pleasure
Flogger = special whip with multiple soft strings which is often used during à Flagellation
Flower sex = soft, tender sex with foreplay
Foot job = stimulation of the penis using one’s feet
Foreplay = general term for anything that creates arousal other than penetrative sex
G
G-Spot = internal pleasure spot found in a CIS female body
Gang Bang = group sex where one person receives from a group
Gilf = attractive older woman (retirement age) (“Grandmother I’d like to fuck”)
Girlfriend Sex, or GF6, GFX = intimate sex, akin to sex with a romantic partner
Golden Shower = sexual practice of urinating onto a partner to derive pleasure → Urolagnia
Gonzo = pornography film consisting of sex scenes without context or story
Greek = anal sex
Grip of Cleopatra = sexual practice during which a woman contracts her vaginal muscles to massage the inserted penis
H
Hand Job= hand stimulation of the penis
Hentai= pornographic anime and manga
Heterosexual= sexual orientation where CIS female is attracted to CIS males
Homosexual = attracted to your same sex
K
Karezza, or: coitus reservatus= sexual practice where ejaculation is avoided
L
Lap Dance = erotic dance taking place on a person’s lap
LGBTQIA+ = collective term for non-heteronormative sexuality, abbreviation for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer, intersexual, asexual and other identities
Love Mobile = à Brothel on wheels, often a motor home
Lubricant = substance used to minimize friction during sex
M
Masochism, masochist = deriving sexual pleasure from pain
Masturbation = stimulation of one’s own sexual organs, using the hands or sex toys
Milf = attractive middle-aged woman with children (“Mother I’d like to fuck”)
Missionary position = sexual position where the passive partner lies on his/her back with the active partner on top
N
Nature’s Prosecco= alternative term for urine
O
Objectophilia = sexual attraction to objects
One Night Stand, or: ONS = sexual encounter where both parties agree to spend one night together
Oral Sex = sexual stimulation of the primary sexual organs (vagina, penis) using one’s mouth
Orgy = sex party involving multiple people during which guests can engage in counter-normative sexual practices
P
Pegging = anal penetration of the male by a female using à Strap-ons
Penis Pump = sexual tool to support penile erection
Pet Play = erotic role play during which a partner takes on the role of an animal
Potency Pill = substance taken to intensify a male erection
Peep Show = theater performance during which audience members get to watch a performer posing their naked body
Pole Dance = erotic dance performed on a pole
Pansexuality= sexual orientation; attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity
Polysexuality= sexual attraction towards multiple genders and sexual identities beyond bisexuality
Petting= non-penetrative sexual stimulation
Q
Queening, or: Face Sitting = sexual practice whereby a man sits on a partner’s face to receive oral stimulation
Quickie = spontaneous, fast sex often without foreplay
R
Rigger = bondage artist performing à Bondage
Roman Shower = vomiting during sex to heighten sexual lust
Rope Marks = visible marks left on the skin from rope used during à Bondage
S
Sadism = sexual satisfaction from the tantalization and humiliation of others
Safer Sex = protected sex using a condom
Safe Word = code word used to end a sexual act immediately; agreed on with a partner prior to the sexual act
Sixty-Nine, or: 69 = sexual position during which both partners lie on top of each other facing each other’s genitals for simultaneous oral stimulation
Slash Fiction = pornographic stories about fictional characters from TV series or movies
Slow Word = a code word to slow down or stop BDSM acts
Snowballing, or Cum Swapping, Cumswap = sexual practice during which semen is collected in the mount and passed on orally to another person
Soft Porn = movie featuring sex indirectly
Spanking = sexual practice that involves spanking a partner using one’s hands or other tools
Spooning = sexual and cuddling position whereby both partners are lying on their sides
Squirting = female ejaculation
Stealthing = abusive sexual practice during which a partner removes the condom without the knowledge or consent of the other partner
Straddle = sexual position during which the penetrating partner lies on his back whilst the other partner sits on the penis with their legs bent
Strap-On = dildo which is strapped around the waist with the help of a belt
SUB, or: submissive = submissive sexual partner
Sugar-Daddy = men who provide material rewards to their partners in exchange for engaging in sexual relations
Sumata = the sexual stimulation of a penis by rubbing it between their partner’s thighs
T
Tantra = spiritual sexual practice
Tea bag = sexual practice during which a penis owner places their testicles onto the face or head of a partner or inserts them into their mouth
Tease and Denial = any sexual act which increases arousal without leading to an orgasm
Threesome = sex between three partners
Tribadism = sexual practice during which a woman rubs her outer genitals against a partner for clitoral stimulation (without penetration)
Transsexual = a person who associates with a different gender than their biological sex, often associated with sex change surgery or hormone therapy
U
Urolagnia= sexual preference for urine
V
Vanillas = term used for people who practice conventional sex and sex positions (missionary)
Vibrator = sex toy available in various shapes and a variety of materials; often vibrates or pulses
Vienna Oyster = sexual position during which a woman lies on her back with her legs crossed behind the man’s head. The man penetrates her, lying on top of her with his full body weight.
W
Watersports= sexual games involving urine à Golden Shower àNature’s Prosecco
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