Think the spark fades in long-term relationships? Think again. According to We-Vibe’s 2025 Long-Term Relationship Report, couples who’ve been together five years or more are finding new ways to keep the chemistry alive—and thriving. From sex toys and open communication to dedicated date nights, the report reveals that a satisfying sex life isn’t just possible over time—it’s often better with it.
We-Vibe surveyed 429 Americans currently in long-term relationships, and what they found is both heartening and helpful: sex toys, open communication, and intentional quality time (yep, date nights!) are powerful drivers of lasting pleasure. Here’s what modern love looks like—and how couples are thriving in it.
1. Sex Toys: Not Just Fun—Foundational
Think sex toys are just for solo play or early relationship experimentation? Think again.
- 45% of couples in LTRs own at least one toy
- 53.5% of couples who use toys report orgasming every time they have sex
- 80%+ of both men and women who use toys report being satisfied with their sex lives
Using sex toys also correlates with more frequent intimacy—71% of toy users have sex at least once a week, compared to 59% overall. And the love doesn’t stop at the bedroom: 62% have either given or would give a sex toy to their partner.
“Toys aren’t just tools—they’re invitations,” says We-Vibe expert Dr. Shamyra Howard, LSCW sex & relationship expert. “They open doors to exploration, reduce performance pressure, and boost intimacy.”
2. Communication: Still the Ultimate Aphrodisiac
Forget lingerie—your voice might be the sexiest thing you bring to bed. The data shows that regular conversations about sex dramatically improve both satisfaction and orgasm frequency.
- 87% of those who regularly talk about sex orgasm every time
- 84% of sexually satisfied respondents discuss sex openly
- 89% of sex toy users are also frequent sex-talkers
According to Dr. Howard: “Talking about sex creates emotional safety, nurtures connection, and lays the foundation for lasting desire.”
3. Date Nights: A Little Romance Goes a Long Way
Whether it’s dressing up for dinner or a cozy night in, couples who prioritize time together reap big rewards.
- 68% of sexually satisfied couples go on at least one date night per month
- 44.5% say they’d consider more date nights to rekindle the spark
In Dr. Howard’s words: “Date nights aren’t just cute—they’re crucial. They’re where fun, flirtation, and fantasy intersect.”
4. What’s Getting in the Way? The Usual Suspects
Life is hectic, and modern couples face real challenges when it comes to intimacy:
- 21.2% cite stress from daily responsibilities
- 20.5% struggle with lack of time
- 20.3% feel too exhausted
- 18.9% say parenting gets in the way
But here’s the twist: couples are fighting back—with intention and creativity. Over 40% say they’ve tried or are open to using sex toys, going on more dates, or even exploring fantasies like BDSM or roleplay.
5. Men vs. Women: The Myth of the Gender Gap
The data is in: satisfaction is almost identical across the gender spectrum.
- 73.5% of men and 74% of women report being sexually satisfied
The real difference? It’s not about gender—it’s about action. Couples who experiment, talk openly, and prioritize connection are the ones thriving.
Final Takeaway: Passion is a Practice
If there’s one message from the We-Vibe 2025 LTR Report, it’s this: great sex in long-term relationships isn’t about luck—it’s about intention. Whether it’s trying something new, having a vulnerable conversation, or carving out time for each other, satisfaction is something couples can build and sustain, year after year.
So if your LTR could use a little TLC, start with the basics: talk more, play more, and make time for each other. Pleasure really can be a lifelong adventure.
Full data report can be viewed here.
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