Anal Sex

Back to Basics: What is Anal Sex?

Anal sex is quite basically having sex with anal penetration (most commonly with a penis). Anyone can have anal sex, having a penis isn't even necessary, as many couples also enjoy using a dildo or strap-on. The important thing to remember is that while anal sex can be fun and incredibly pleasurable, there are a few things to keep in mind to make sure it's the best it can be for you and your partner.

Where do you begin when it comes to anal sex?

It's important to start small and err on the side of caution. Here are some key tips:

  • No matter how confident someone is, the tightness of the anus muscle varies from person to person. So starting off too enthusiastically may actually cause pain.
  • Consider using a finger or small toy to begin with – but make sure it is one that has a flared base, so there is no risk of losing the toy. Another way to start off gentle is with rimming, or stimulating the area with your tongue. This will get the area relaxed and more comfortable with contact, which is especially important for complete beginners.
  • Working your way up towards a butt plug or larger toy is an important step to not only stretching the ring of muscle at the anus, but also to help adjust to the sense of fullness anal penetration can create.

There's no fixed timeline on when you should be ready for a penis or dildo, it really comes down to each individual and what they are comfortable with. Additionally, there's really no point in rushing the process, as this might lead to hurting yourself and that will set you back to the beginning, or worse, require medical care.

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What are the best anal sex positions?

While there are the classic positions like on all fours or lying on your stomach, it's also just as enjoyable to be on top during anal sex. In a similar way to the cowgirl position, being penetrated while on top during anal sex can offer a sense of control over the depth and speed of penetration.

Shit happens – Is anal sex really that messy?

While porn and movies can make anal sex seem easy and mess-free, the reality can be quite different. That's no reason to avoid it, instead it just means some preparation is necessary.

There's no need to fast or starve yourself before getting intimate, it's unlikely that fecal matter will be an issue – so long as there is no diarrhea or urgent need to hit the bathroom. And is it so bad if things do get messy? One partner might feel embarrassed if anything does appear, so make an effort to be relaxed and even humorous about it – after all, shit happens!

Trying Anal For The First Time: How do I raise the subject?

It seems like anal sex is the final frontier for most couples. Maybe it’s the same for you and your relationship? Would you like to try it out with your partner, but you’re feeling a little unsure about what the first steps are? Then we have some tips for you.

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My First Time Having Anal Sex: Our author tells all

For so many years our author had gotten by with average sex. The only penetration from a penis she had experienced was vaginal – no clitoral stimulation, no toys and most definitely no anal sex. It was only once she had a new partner, a new level of comfort and new self-confidence that she discovered a new way of enjoying sex…and it was her first time having anal sex!

The myth of the anal orgasm – does it exist?

When it comes to anal sex, people’s opinions differ widely. For some, anal sex is the royal treatment to sexual gratification, whilst others have memories of pain and insecurity. We take a closer look at anal sex and explore whether anal orgasms are real.

How to prepare for anal sex: The top tips

The good news is that anal sex is becoming less of a taboo in our society, and rightly so. But to ensure your first time is the pleasurable highlight it could be, good preparation is necessary. We’ve got you covered. Here are our top tips to prepare for anal sex.