The most important thing to consider is: every body is different. Some of us can become moist in a relatively short amount of time, even with very little non-penetrative stimulation. Others, on the other hand, don’t become nearly as moist – it’s all a matter of natural design. And that’s completely okay. But one thing is for certain: a moist vagina is not the only ‘true’ sign of a woman’s arousal. Otherwise, why would lubrication exist!? Nevertheless, many women and men wonder: what actually happens to the body when it gets aroused? We’ll explain – without giggling.
“Baby, I love it when your Bartholin glands gets active,” said no one ever. But that’s precisely what the words “I love it when you get wet” mean. The formulation is anything but sensible. The vagina doesn’t really “get” moist: it already is. At least, a little bit. Small amounts of vaginal discharge inside a woman’s panties are completely normal and healthy. The liquid helps to flush out bacteria from the vaginal canal. In other words, the female sex organ is pretty clever and comes equipped with its very own self-cleaning mechanism.
Moist vagina? Thank the Bartholin glands!
In addition to these – let’s call them “everyday” – vaginal secretions, there are other fluids that can appear when we are aroused. Specifically, there are two types of bodily products. The everyday vaginal secretion with its cleansing function mostly originates from the cervical glands inside the cervix and uterine wall. That’s why it’s also called cervical mucus. But if you’re between the sheets with your partner and aroused, there’s another, different liquid secreted from the already mentioned Bartholin glands. The latter are situated on both sides of the vaginal opening and primarily function to moisturize and ease penetration – irrespective of whether a finger, penis or sex toy is the object of arousal. The fact is: the Bartholin glands only jump into action when you’re aroused. But that’s not the end of the story. There are also the Skene’s glands, which are close to the urethra and are also known as prostate feminine (female prostate). They produce fluid that mixes with the other vaginal secretions. By the way, some scientists believe that the Skene’s glands have something to do with squirting, but that’s not scientifically proven.
Yup! Your vulva sweats!
Now, the attentive reader may be wondering: why does the whole of the vagina feel wet during sex or foreplay, and not just the vaginal entrance, the only area moistened by the glands? Fair question. The answer is so-called vaginal sweating. Admittedly, it doesn’t sound particularly sexy, but I guess that’s a matter of taste. Vaginal sweating is a phenomenon caused by increased blood flow to the organ during sexual arousal. The attendant pressure leads to vaginal swelling. In addition, there’s the added pressure created by the vaginal fluid. And that’s how your beautiful vulva begins to sweat. Yes? Did you really want to know all that? My pleasure.
By the way: If you sometimes have the problem not to get wet. Don’t worry. Many women have this problem and there are many reasons. What can help: Sex Toys like the Womanizer Starlet. The exceptional Pleasure Air Technology stimulates the clitoris with gentle changing in air pressure. On the lowes level, it builds up your lust – and can help to get a moist vagina.
It is quite common to have a reduced libido during pregnancy and after giving birth. That is absolutely human and normal. Eventually, however, the desire to be intimate returns. For some couples this desire returns sooner than it does for other people. The regular question is how long should we wait to have sex again after giving birth – and what you need to watch out for. Let’s find the answers to these questions.