What is an egg vibrator and how the hell do I use them?

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An egg vibrator is a descendant of the commonly known Kegel balls, or Ben Wa balls, which have been used for centuries to strengthen vaginal and pelvic floor muscles. But they are so much more than just an exercise for your pelvic floor, they can also enhance pleasure.

Read on for some of the most common questions I’m asked about Kegel balls, as well as myths we need to stop perpetuating about tight and loose vaginas. I’ll be referencing the Bloom by We-Vibe, vibrating Kegel balls that come with a variety of weights to help you engage and release different muscles with ease and pleasure.

How do I insert them?

This is a great question! Before we get stuck into it, I want to emphasise something first! Anytime you insert something into your vagina, it is always ‘easier’ and more enjoyable to build your arousal first. So, before you do any of the below, spend time building arousal through breath, movement, sound, touch, placement of awareness or toys!

Lie down in a comfortable position (spread eagle is a good op!)

  • Breathe deeply with your pelvic diaphragm and rest the first ball at the opening of your vagina.
  • Use plenty of lube and as you breathe deeply; slowly and steadily insert the first ball. Do not push through any pain or discomfort.
  • With your breath, move the ball/s into your vagina as far as you’re comfortable with. Allow for the removal cord to hang outside of your vagina.
  • Start activating, engaging and releasing your pelvic floor muscles (the muscles you engage to stop flow mid wee).

What practice can I do if I want to engage and strengthen my muscles?

I am asked this a lot – it’s one of the most common reasons people invest in Kegel balls (though there are many more benefits which we’ll cover in the next question). Here’s what you can do if you want to build awareness and engagement of your pelvic floor muscles.

  • Using ample amounts of lube, insert the balls (using a similar process to the previous answer).
  • Engage your pelvic floor muscles to squeeze the balls. If you’re new to this, to activate pelvic floor muscles, engage the muscle group you use to stop yourself from peeing.
  • Intend to hold this engagement for 5 seconds, then release for another 5 seconds. If you can’t hold for 5 seconds, start with 3 seconds or even 1 second.
  • Repeat this step 5 times in a row. Do sets of 5 for as long as you want. They can also be done throughout the day, with or without Kegel balls.

To enhance pleasure:

Toning your pelvic floor muscles and feeling more engaged with your vagina can increase pleasure and orgasmicity. You can increase the intensity of your Kegel ball workout by using heavier weighted balls. The Bloom by We-Vibe has 10 different powerful rumbly vibrations to explore deep pleasure as you engage your pelvic floor muscles. How to:

  • Insert your Kegel balls during self-pleasure
  • Engage your pelvic floor muscles as you use breath, movement, sound and touch to build arousal
  • You can also use an external vibrator or toy to stimulate erogenous zones and the clitoris

Will this help me get a tight vagina?

The tight vagina phenomenon is a part of a sex shaming discourse that warns people with vulvas not to have too many sexual partners as it will result in looseness. Sex cannot and does not ‘loosen’ vaginas. Two things that can affect vaginal elasticity are age and childbirth. And despite what we’re told, a tight vagina usually signals some underlying concerns. It can be due to lack of arousal, pain, discomfort or vaginismus (an often-painful involuntary contraction of vaginal muscles). Tight vaginas are not the goal when it comes to Kegel exercises. Rather, it’s a supple, engaged vagina that can allow for deep experiences of pleasure for the vulva owner.

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With training in direct experiential learning, Georgia applies a client-centred approach to educate and support people to become more aware of their bodies, sex and sexuality. Georgia is certified in somatic sexology, sex education and coaching, and embodied counselling. As well as working with clients in session, Georgia facilitates workshops, is a media commentator, works in sex-tech, is developing a sex & relationship app powered by AI, and travels Australia-wide presenting to students, health professionals and educators on how to have useful, safe and intentional conversations about sex. Georgia is the Australian Ambassador for We-Vibe, an innovative company that designs and manufactures world-leading couples and solo vibrators.