Dirty Talk

Let's talk about sex... or even better, let's talk during sex! Dirty talk can really push our love life. Unfortunately, many don't dare to say their hot thoughts really loud in practice. Time to change that! Here comes our how to talk dirty guide...

How to talk dirty

There's a saying that good sex starts in the head. It's our fantasy, our dirty thoughts that really get us going. A good reason to say them out loud during sex is that they can really turn our lovers on. Lust is increased by words and our good sex just gets better. How to talk dirty? One simple rule applies: just say what you want and what you're enjoying. Your partner will be more invested if they can tell you mean it. Even if you blurt out something a bit weird, you can laugh about it together. Super horny or super funny? Sounds like a win-win situation... Dirty talk is a matter of taste in any case, something different gets everyone going. And: Of course, it has to please everyone concerned, but that's the same with every sex practice, isn't it?

Tips and sayings for Dirty talk - Everyone can talk dirty!

Apart from the advantage that erotic lip service can bring a breath of fresh air into your love life, Dirty talk also has the advantage that the other person learns exactly what really turns us on when it comes to sex. Seldom does the truth come to the table like this than in the heat of the moment. Boredom doesn't come up at all and if there is something to laugh about, that can be a plus. Because we know: Good sex is when you can laugh together.

I dare not - the fear of dirty talk

Even though many people will certainly find the idea of hot pillow talk very exciting, not everyone dares to put it into practice. The fear of embarrassing oneself is too great. Or to frighten your partner. A study by Cleveland State University found that the sexual fear of communication - surprise! - is closely linked to self-confidence. Well, it's a good thing you can boost that with a few simple tricks.

Tips for boosting sexual confidence

• Openness: Talking to your partner about your preferences, desires and fears takes a lot of pressure off during sex. And at the same time strengthens your own self-esteem.
• To be open for new things: Of course you don't have to try anything new during sex. But if you let yourself be inspired and remain curious, you will not only find out what you really like, you will also become more self-confident.
  Speaking of what you like about yourself: masturbation is the best way to get to know your body and your needs at the same time. And if you feel completely comfortable in your skin and know what you want, you automatically have self-confidence in bed.

Steps to overcome the uncertainty of dirty talk

The most important thing is to give yourself time and under no circumstances to put pressure on yourself. Dirty Talk is NOT a mush for good sex, but merely a practice that can be used to bring a breath of fresh air between the sheets. Accordingly, it should first and foremost be fun to try it out. Here are a few tips for all still insecure beginners:

• Bringing the subject to the table: Is your partner* even in the mood for tingling pillow talk? It is better to clarify this before you start.
• Get in slowly: Who has never done this before, but then immediately with a research "I want you f*****" enters, runs the risk of the other but somewhat deterred. In general, it is better to start with soft sentences such as "Your skin is velvety soft, it turns me on so much".
• Written exercise: If you still find it very difficult to get dirty words across your lips, you can practice in text messages first. Sexting as a preliminary stage to Dirty Talk, so to speak...
• Paying attention to each other's preferences: No surprise, we humans are different - and therefore have different preferences when it comes to sex. While some people like it when dirty talk is really rough, others prefer the softer version. So in any case, check the taste of your partner before you start.

Important tips

The tone makes the music: Even when you're really going at it, it's important to pay attention to the tone of your voice. Too much emphasis can definitely have a deterrent effect.

• Active language: Really good dirty talk expresses what you want even during sex. So conjunctive language is out of place here.
• No baby talk: Sure, there are probably people in this world who like it, but usually baby talk during sex is more than just silly - and is more likely to cause laughter than a hot atmosphere.
• Always remain respectful: Even if the other person may like it a bit harder, everyone has limits to when it can turn into something unpleasant. And these limits should always be respected.

Talk dirty in different situations: Dirty talk texts

• In the office: dirty talk texts to lovers saying something like "I can't wait to feel you tonight" or "I'm not wearing any underwear" can make the other person's day and increases the anticipation for the dirty talk sex at end of the day.
• In the restaurant: sending a message from the bathroom saying "You don't know how wet I am for you right now" between the main course and dessert can make sure that the dessert is eaten at home.
• Somewhere outdoors: Whispering into the other person's ear while shopping, walking or at an event what you would like to do with them right now and in as much detail as possible makes you want more.

Dirty Talk Sayings

Here's a couple of lines that really work for dirty talk:

• I want to feel you. Right now.
• You have no idea how hot and wet you make me.
• I'm not wearing any underwear.
• You fuck me so hard
• I'm so wet for you
• Your voice is so sexy, I feel it right in my clit
• I wanna taste your cum
• Do what you want with me
• I had a dream about you last night. It was about...