Blood play is when you either cover each other in fake blood or use sterilized equipment to actually cut someone’s skin, usually superficially so as not to cause scarring (though some people want scars). Jeans that people are especially into the latter because there is a sense of a pride for a “pain slut” to endure such “torture.”
Is it safe? Jean says it depends on your practice. “Blood play can be very safe if you have a top who knows what they are doing and is educated on medical play. The most important factor in any kind of medical play is sterilization,” Jean explains.
Saynt echoes this sentiment, noting that this is a fringe practice that is only done by very specific practitioners in the kink community. “if this practice is something you’re considering, do so with caution, with lots of conversation, and make sure to take proper care of your wounds after play to prevent infections,” he says.
Watersports refer to peeing on someone. Also known as “golden showers,” this can happen in bed, in the shower, or wherever you’d like to pee on someone or have someone pee on you. Watersports can also include “squirt play,” which involves female ejaculation spraying on the other person.
Why are people into this? “The main motive for this type of play is humiliation,” Saynt tells us. “The positioning, having someone stand over you, and the action of being pissed on or squirted on, all fall within acceptable methods to experience submissiveness.”
This another BDSM practice that has made its merry way into the mainstream. There are plenty of articles circulating the internet about this practice. People are utterly fascinated by it … and about why anyone would want to engage.
Cuckolding is when a third person comes into a primary relationship (known as a Bull or Alpha) and has sex with one of the partners (known as a Hot Wife) while the other watches (the Cuckold). This usually happens with two men and a woman, but it can vary. The idea is that the Alpha can please the partner better than her other, “lesser,” partner. The cuckold is often placed in a cage or devices like cock and ball cages can be used to “punish” the cuckold.
Jean says that porn has altered the way we view cuckolding in a way that limits our understanding. It isn’t always about humiliation.
“Cuckolding can be really quite sweet. When you think about it, the entire experience revolves around the cuck. The bull is technically the stunt cock,” she says.
Saynt stresses the importance of aftercare in this kind of play. “If it’s consensual and sane it’s safe, so make sure to check in with your partner and focus your aftercare on reconnecting to the person you love,” he says.
“Controlling your partner’s ability to urinate is the main draw of catheterization,” Saynt says. It’s all about controlling your partner’s basic functions, the appeal being that they are completely helpless in the most fundamental way. Saynt tells us that the pleasure derived from catheterization comes from the arousal of having the instrument pass certain hot spots. “Before reaching the bladder, the catheter will pass the prostate gland adding to the sensation of play.”
Saynt warns caution with this kind of play. “Catheterization is a potentially dangerous practice that can cause permanent damage to the inner walls of your penis if you don’t know how to properly insert [the catheter],” he says. Health professionals strongly advise against this kind of play so be sure you’re working with someone with medical training if you do indulge.