Sexual Playfulness: Come on and play with me!

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Moments of play, light-heartedness, gentle teasing, joy and humour are vital in a thriving sexual relationship. Sexual playfulness is good for your relationship, it allows you to bond, deepen intimacy, develop trust, relieve tension, invite curiosity, be creative, and experience variety in your sexual repertoire. Sexual playfulness can also enhance your collective mood – at times sex can be fun and funny, it doesn’t always have to be steamy and broody.

I find most couples are sexually playful at the start of their relationship. They enjoy discovering this new person’s body and they have fun exploring the unknown. It’s pretty common that this playful attitude dissipates and touching each other for fun can drop off the agenda as sexual predictability settles in. For couples who feel their relationship is only sensual when they’re physically ‘doing it’, I prescribe a hearty dose of sexual playfulness to open up a whole range of intimate, erotic and sensual experiences and keep sexual desire alive.

Here’s a few ideas for you to invite the play into sex:

Accidently touch each other sensually while doing mundane things

Sensually touching each other shouldn’t be reserved for when you’re in bed together. Think of all the times you could slide a foot up their leg at dinner, or a cheeky bum grab while on a walk or a quick, sensual kiss on the neck when you’re out. You can use sexual playfulness to build arousal and anticipation throughout the day, utilising mundane activities as an opportunity for foreplay.

Move to music

When listening to music, you can experience up to 40 different emotions! Music is a powerful tool to support you in feeling present, connected to your body and others. Certain sounds and songs can help build arousal and bring sex front of mind, which is useful for anyone who wants to prioritise sex and intimacy with their partner. Play music that makes you feel sensual as often as possible. You can start by listening to a playlist first thing in the morning, while you’re working, as you cook dinner or to help get you in the mood…  you could even make a sensual playlist together

If you need some inspo, I created a sensual playlist with the help of my IG community.

Shower together

Or better yet, shower each other! There’s so much to say about this very simple activity that you can be seamlessly worked into your schedule. Showering together allows you to explore power dynamics, new sensations, water play, learn about each other’s body and at the very least, it makes an essential everyday job joyful.

Nothing says play quite like toys

There are so many couples toys with fun add-ons, app connectivity and customisable sensations in the We-Vibe range. Discuss what you’d both like to explore and go shopping together – that experience in itself will be a form of sexual play!

Play is more about your attitude than the activity you choose to do. So rather than getting fixated on ‘what’ or ‘how’ you’ll do it, start simple and have a bit of awkward fun with it. The freedom to enjoy sexual playfulness is not only good for you physically, emotionally and mentally, but it’s also good for your relationships – all pretty solid reasons to put playtime back on the agenda.

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Play is more about your attitude than the activity you choose to do. So rather than getting fixated on ‘what’ or ‘how’ you’ll do it, start simple and have a bit of awkward fun with it. The freedom to enjoy sexual playfulness is not only good for you physically, emotionally and mentally, but it’s also good for your relationships – all pretty solid reasons to put playtime back on the agenda.

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With training in direct experiential learning, Georgia applies a client-centred approach to educate and support people to become more aware of their bodies, sex and sexuality. Georgia is certified in somatic sexology, sex education and coaching, and embodied counselling. As well as working with clients in session, Georgia facilitates workshops, is a media commentator, works in sex-tech, is developing a sex & relationship app powered by AI, and travels Australia-wide presenting to students, health professionals and educators on how to have useful, safe and intentional conversations about sex. Georgia is the Australian Ambassador for We-Vibe, an innovative company that designs and manufactures world-leading couples and solo vibrators.