In the modern world, even the term “foreplay” sounds a little old-fashioned. What is foreplay? Well, traditionally, foreplay is any sexual activity that happens before penetration. This idea of “real sex” being a penis in a vagina and anything else – the main activities that actually cause orgasms – is simply a starter course is bit weird. Penetration is only a part of sex, it’s not the only, “real” sex, and “foreplay” is not simply be a warm-up act – after all, sex is about enjoyment, pleasure, connection and orgasms. If it’s consensual and kind, let’s celebrate it in all its forms.
There are certain standard foreplay techniques that are vital to good foreplay. Manual stimulation (otherwise known as masturbation) of both the penis and clitoris/vulva is a real classic. Fingering, especially, is a great way to stimulate the G-spot and bring on a whole new kind of orgasm, so check out our ultimate guide to fingering for more foreplay ideas. Fingering is not just for women – the “male G-spot", the prostate, is located in the anus and can produce an incredible orgasm. Check out this guide to the “male G-spot" here.
Oral sex is also a great way to stimulate a partner, and you can feel and control the kind of pressure and speed you use better with your mouth than with your own genitals. It’s also incredibly sexy to be so close to such an intimate part of your partner, getting to see and breathe in the center of their sexuality. Check out this guide to oral sex.
You may like to try some different foreplay ideas to get you in the mood for sex. Some people like having their hands tied, others like wax dripped on their skin or enjoy some intense dirty talk. Here are a few ideas for some foreplay games:
Tie a blindfold or use an eyemask to stop your partner from seeing. Then gently tease and tantalize them with your hands and mouth, starting with light touches to the neck, legs and stomach before building to more intense stimulation of their nipples and genitals.
If you fancy handing over control of your foreplay to Lady Luck, there are many types of sexy dice available, with different commands written on each side. Roll the dice and you could end up nibbling a nipple or sucking an earlobe – the element of chance brings some spontaneity to the game.
Work with your hands to ease your partner’s tension – help them relax so you can work them up again! There are several different methods for massage, including:
Sex toys are a great way to improve your foreplay in general, but if you want to get you and your partner hot under the collar before you’ve even entered the bedroom, a teasing, tantalizing vibrator is a great place to start. We-Vibe offer Moxie for the clitoris or Bond for the penis, which are both small, wearable toys designed to slip into the panties and deliver near-silent, teasing vibrations. It gets even sexier when you add in the toys’ app capabilities. Obviously, you don’t want to be reaching into your underwear to fiddle with buttons and change settings in public, so We-Vibe toys tune into their free smartphone app. With a simple tap of a phone screen, you can control your vibrations – or hand over the reins to your partner and let them control your vibrations. Knowing that it’s your little secret and you can tease them with pleasant sensations on the bus or during a lunch break really gets you quivering in anticipation...
Yeah, it sounds cheesy, but it’s important to let each other know what you actually want. Check out this article for more foreplay ideas, or this guide to improving communication in your sex life.
