The tattoo needle vibrates as fast and loud as my speeding, beating heart – at least that’s what it feels like. As the ink is slowly being pricked into my skin, point by penetrating point, I begin to wonder about the body cult – perhaps to distract myself from the pain. Can tattoos really help you to love yourself more?
Do you remember the last time you really felt proud of yourself? Admittedly, it’s been a while since I felt that way and I often have to force myself to pat my own back. Most of the time, I respond to my achievements by lowering their value: I tell myself that what I accomplished was “just luck” or “wasn’t as great of an achievement anyway”. And in the space of a few such thoughts, I’ve forbidden myself three minutes of ‘fame’ and more importantly the feeling that I really accomplished something. I know I’m not alone in reacting like this. We should be proud of ourselves more often.
Whether in our private or professional lives, most of us ensure that we treat our fellow human beings fairly, openly and with compassion. But one important thing often gets neglected: being truly good to oneself. Ask yourself, and be honest: do you love yourself? It’s time to be kinder to yourself. That’s why we’ve selected five smart tips to foster more self-love.
I’m more the dark type of hair. Which means, female body hair is an issue for me since puberty. “Are these hairs in your face”, asked me another girl during sports class when I was only 13 years old. It was hard. And I wanted to get rid of my female body hair asap.
Every woman is unique and so is her vulva. And yet many adult women struggle with the physical appearance of their genitals. Hilde Atalanta is trying to change this frame of mind with The Vulva Gallery. The Amsterdam-based illustrator’s paintings celebrate difference, not sameness, and encourage women to appreciate the uniqueness of their own bodies.
Mindful masturbation, libido liberation and shameless sex – even the workshops at Sex Expo New York sound like a sexual revolution. Our author Edith Löhle was in New York to record the experience.
The foundation of a harmonious and healthy relationship with someone else is a fulfilling relationship with yourself. Only those who love themselves are open to the love from others. Although this may sound like the kind of empty sentence you might find in the ‘relationships’ section at your local bookshop, it’s actually pretty logical. How are you supposed to like others, and to allow others to like you, when you don’t even like yourself? But don’t panic, because self-love can be learned. Go on a date with yourself, get to know yourself better and heal your most important relationship – the one to yourself. Here are some helpful tips.
For many years, tattoo model Victoria van Violence suffered from depression. She spoke about her condition openly on Facebook and later founded the self-care label “The New Rose” in an effort to help other sufferers. Now, she creates ethical fashion under the slogan “Member of the self-care club”. In an exclusive for O Diaries, the influencer, entrepreneur and fresh author writes about her experiences.