As someone who’s spent most of my career talking and writing about sex, I’m often asked what’s the best piece of sex advice I can share. People are inevitably taken aback when I don’t impart a groundbreaking oral sex trick, or secret Kama Sutra position. Don’t get me wrong. I’m a big advocate for continuously adding to your bag of sexual techniques, but without this piece of advice, most of them are redundant. That piece of advice is simple, and kind of common sense, but it’s something very few of us do when we initiate sex; and it’s to ask our partner a four-word question: “What are you into?”
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Frieda Hintze
This is what happens to your body when you orgasm
Have you ever wondered what actually goes on inside your body when you reach the Big O? What is it, exactly, that makes it feel SO. DAMN. GOOD? As it turns out, a whole lot of processes are involved in climaxing. While we often refer to orgasm as a destination, or end point, it’s actually much more of a journey.
Intimacy after birth: When is it okay to have sex again?
It is quite common to have a reduced libido during pregnancy and after giving birth. That is absolutely human and normal. Eventually, however, the desire to be intimate returns. For some couples this desire returns sooner than it does for other people. The regular question is how long should we wait to have sex again after giving birth – and what you need to watch out for. Let’s find the answers to these questions.
Too much masturbation: How often is “normal” and healthy?
Almost everyone does it. And regularly too. Of course, we’re talking about masturbation. For a while now the stigma around this topic has significantly lessened. Nevertheless, there are still many myths surrounding masturbation. For example, there is still the common belief that it’s possible to masturbate “too much” – and that it can even have consequences for your health. Is that true? We get to the bottom of this!
The reason why people no longer have patience for love
Why don’t we want to commit anymore? Especially in metropolitan cities, there seems to be a genuine fear of long-term relationships. Our author Anne has made up her mind on the reasons why – and comes up with a simple solution.
How to become a sexually empowered woman
Here’s a challenge: define ‘sexy’. What does it mean to be sexy? What makes us label some people ‘sexy’, and not others? Our author Nadia Bokody has a clear opinion: If you answered by describing a particular aesthetic, you’re wrong. To be sexy is a question of sexual self-empowerment…
6 Surprising benefits of mutual masturbation
Sure, playing alone is fun. But why play alone when you an invite your partner to join the fun? Mutual masturbation is one of the most beneficial activities for your relationship and your intimacy. Just check out these six little-known benefits…
How to have a squirting orgasm
Squirting orgasms can be a lot of fun. But they have a lot of stigma and misinformation attached to them. It’s the reason many women never attempt one….
